Hello beautiful,
I recently watched a reel by Jillian Turecki on Instagram that deeply resonated with me. Jillian emphasizes that we cannot build meaningful relationships with someone who isn’t willing to look to the future with us, make plans, and engage in tough conversations. I wholeheartedly agree with this perspective.  (You can view the reel here )
However, one aspect I question is the emphasis on protecting our hearts and boundaries. Â
I wonder if, in our efforts to protect, we are unintentionally rejecting opportunities and connections under the guise of self-preservation.
This protective stance can create an oppositional dynamic, casting us in the roles of victim and villain.
Many of us have become adept at shielding ourselves and our hearts.
But what if, instead of focusing on protection, we focused on awareness and articulation of our needs and boundaries?Â
By deeply respecting and understanding our hearts and boundaries, we might find a more skillful, adaptive, and present approach to relationships.
Does protection truly serve us, or is clear communication what we need?
If we can articulate our needs and boundaries effectively, we educate others on how to engage with us, removing the need for defensive protection. This shift might help us move away from a mindset of potential disappointment, rejection, and unworthiness.
When we approach relationships with an open heart, without the constriction of protection, we can engage more fully and willingly.
I believe that the more articulate and aware we are of our hearts and boundaries, the less we need to rely on protection. Clear articulation fosters openness, inviting more genuine connections and energetic matches.
How does this resonate with you? I’d love to hear your thoughts.
Huge Love
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PS: My group coaching program, The Corner, is the perfect space to get educated on, explore, and articulate your heart, your boundaries, and your needs. Join HERE to dive deeper into these transformative as deeply supportive practices.
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