Self love ISN'T found in affirmations... Want to know where to find it?

Hello lovely,

When I look back on different phases of my life, I can pretty much pinpoint the quality of my relationship with myself by the quality of relationships I was living in.

There were seasons where I tolerated being spoken to in ways that left me small, silenced, or on edge. And honestly, it wasn’t about them—it was about me. Because that was the level of respect and love I was offering myself at the time.

Then there were the chapters where my circle shifted. Where conversations became nourishing, where I felt safe enough to be raw, where I stopped apologizing for existing and started breathing deeper in my own skin. That wasn’t coincidence—that was self-love taking shape in real life.

We throw the phrase “love yourself” around so much, but here’s the truth I’ve lived:

The number one way you can tell how deeply you love yourself is by looking at the company you keep.

Are your relationships peaceful? 

Do they hold mutual respect? 

Can they withstand conscious conflict without crumbling? 

Do you feel authentic in them?

The external is always a mirror. Look at the relationships you’ve curated, and you’ll see the current standard of your own love for self.

The life you’re living is the loudest love letter you’ve ever written to yourself.

Big Love

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