It started with a pile of laundry... and a fight I wasn't actually having.

Hello lovely,

The other day, I was folding the laundry—just me and a mountain of mismatched socks. You know those quiet moments when your mind suddenly decides to get chatty?

As I folded, a thought pulled me in. It’s something I’ve been hearing a lot lately—from clients, friends, family—and I wanted to share it with you.

Right now, so many of us are tangled up in emotional and relationship stuff. Feeling unseen, misunderstood, or hurt by things people said—or didn’t say. That tone, that silence… it gets under your skin, doesn’t it?

And then it hit me: so much of the pain we carry? It actually starts with a conversation we’re having with ourselves.

We decide how someone else is feeling about us.

We give meaning to their actions (or inactions).

We write entire stories about what their behaviour means—about them, about us, about where we stand.

All without a single word exchanged.



I do this too—catching myself mid-rant, mid-victim mode, throwing an emotional tantrum inside my head that no one else even knows about.

That made me wonder: how many of our relationship dramas actually begin in our own minds?

How often do we try to fix hurts we made up ourselves?

What if we learned to pause that spiral and ask, “Wait, have I even spoken to them about this?”

What if we got curious instead of certain?

Asked questions without gearing up for a fight?

Listened without needing to be right?

Because maybe the biggest relief isn’t in being understood… but in realising the story we made up wasn’t true at all.

So here I am, still folding laundry, still untangling my own stories, still learning to check in with real people instead of letting my inner drama queen run the show.

If you’re sitting there thinking, “Wait… do I do this too?”—then honestly, me too.

August is here—perfect timing to slow down and get real with what’s going on beneath the surface.

If you want a safe, chill space to talk it out—no judgment, no fixing, just listening—let’s do it.

I’m opening my Talk To Me 30-day listening and expression space.

Comment below or reach out and tell me what stories keep running in your head lately. What’s coming up for you?

Let’s unpack it together.

All my love,

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